We’re delighted to share testimonials we receive from families who have benefited from Hospice care, as we feel it’s important that our community understands the kind of work we do.
Here’s are several testimonials which describe the professional and loving assistance we are able to provide patients and their families:
‘A year and a half ago I realised I had limited time left with my precious father who had been diagnosed with lung cancer (having never smoked in 76 years).
Dad, having always been my pillar of strength who loved me unconditionally my whole life, refused chemo and submitted to this being the end of his days. Being a spiritual soul who considered this life as only a passing between real worlds, he was perfectly at peace with this and finally passed away in August this year.
This experience has left me humbled – realising that my family and I could not have walked this path without the support, guidance and love of family and friends. Among these the Hospice White River women.
They prepared us for the grim realities to be expected when losing a loved one to a terminal illness and spent hours comforting, listening, and answering questions most wouldn’t be able to answer. The kindness, understanding and compassion these women (Angels as Dad named them) gave during that time will always be remembered and appreciated.’ – Marianne
‘In April 2009 my husband, Tony, was diagnosed with lung cancer. It was suggested to me that I should contact the Hospice organisation for assistance. The next day I went to see Hospice and within a week they came to visit us.
They welcomed us as a part of their family. At this time we were living on a farm about ten kilometres outside White River, but, was told by them that I was not to be worried about this as it would not be a problem. I was told by a friend that they would become my best friends (and wasn’t that the truth?).
Nurse Lindy and Sister Jo visited us once a week, (sometimes twice if Tony didn’t seem too good).
Nothing was too much for them! They explained the various stages of the illness to me, what Tony was going through and what to expect as the illness progressed.
Tony loved attending the Wednesday Morning Teas at the Hospice House in White River whilst he was still able to travel in the car. If I was feeling down or upset I would pop in to Hospice and have a cup of tea and a chat with the staff. They were always so good at cheering me up. Tony always looked forward to their visits to us on the farm and this became a highlight of his week.
Lindy and Jo were always there for us. My daughters in Johannesburg were always able to phone them for updates on their father’s condition and would always get a cheerful and honest response from them.
No one can understand what Hospice means to you until you are in that situation where all seems so hopeless. Sadly Tony passed away in June 2010 and again they were there for us and assisted us in getting through this very sad time.
They truly are ‘ ANGELS IN DISGUISE ‘ and I will be grateful to them for the rest of my life.’
‘Thank you for giving up so much for your precious time to take me to Medi-Clinic for radiation. I can’t tell you how much I appreciated it.
Everything you do is done with such good grace and a lovely smile and I always look forward to seeing you, for whatever reason. Thank you for all the interest you have taken in this wretched cancer. It seems to have gone on forever, but I know that you are always there, the prime mover in the treatment to heal it and surely now it will only take time to heal it.
All my gratitude and thanks to you.’ – Anne
‘I really have battled to write the paragraph on Hospice for you – there just are not the words to describe the magnificent job that they do! Anyway, here is an attempt….
If there is one thing I could change about the process of my mother transitioning from life to death, it would be to have called for the assistance of Hospice sooner. Death, in the final days and hours, is a graceful and fairly peaceful experience. In those final days, as my other was dying of cancer at home, we had Hospice White River on board – on board of what had previously been quite a rocky boat ride. Not much can prepare a family for the death of their beloved matriarch. In hindsight I can see that as much as we all loved our mother, and my father his wife, from diagnosis most of us went through varying degrees of denial regarding her actual passing as we all scuttled around trying to meet her needs and ease her pain. That denial is probably one of the reasons why we did not get in touch with Hospice sooner.
What we did not know is that the loving and compassionate care that the Hospice ladies provide is not just for the “end zone”. They ALSO provide support and care for patients recovering from illness, operations or undergoing therapies associated with their condition. Words fail me as I attempt to describe that relief and the stabilising effect that our family experienced once Hospice became a part of our family for those weeks as my mother died. A calmness prevailed as we each received appropriate advice and counsel in that time of severe trauma. My mother adored her nursing sister who eventually was the only person that managed to feed her and who could to get her to smile as she respectfully bathed, moved and tended to her every need. Each member of my family are eternally grateful for the Hospice angels. Once again, words fail me as I flounder for the appropriate adjective to describe them, or the verbs to describe what they did for us. My advice – call them in, sooner rather than later.’ – Jo